Gayle Madwin on Being Queer By Choice

"People should not fuss over whether they are officially willing to call themselves 'attracted' or not. 'Attraction' is not some mysterious thing that people have to "discover" before they can allow themselves to have sex with someone. It is only a question of worry about some mysterious thing called 'attraction' or 'non-attraction' or 'gay' or 'straight' because their mysterious thing that they believe in does not even matter. Enjoyment is all that matters.

"Because until you get beyond all this fear and worry you will always be foreclosing your own choices by being too anxious and unable to trust in the existence of multiple options. Relaxing and enjoying the moment is what most people are so very bad at doing."

-Gayle Madwin, adapted from


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